Thursday, June 06, 2013
Hmmmm. I am one of those guys that makes parents scratch their heads for a bit, but after a while they understand. I try to treat every relationship like it is the last one I am going to have. When I say, "I love you," to me, that is a commitment and I will always feel that way (from one degree to another), because I am not shallow. I also believe that you shouldn't "break-up" unless all other avenues have been exhausted (unless they cheat on me or there are signs of abuse, etc.), so I think couple's counseling is great! It would also be nice to meet those who do not freak when they hear " HIV POSITIVE," which I have been for over 21 years, and have not passed it to anyone. I have been in multi-year relationships negative guys, and they have stayed that way. In other words, I know how to have a great time and still be safe. I read somewhere that one of the reasons we have such a hard time making relationships last is that we have no role models to "lead the way" (that, and we are not raised with being gay as an option), so I think we need to show straight people that we take our relationships as seriously as they claim thy do. Yes, I have a few vices and a few bad habits, but don't we all? It's those perfect people who scare me. You know, the ones who tan by opening the refrigerator door at night? In a way, you could say I am "newly single." My ex told me he stopped loving me "that way" and I am "sexually unattractive" (a truly horrible thing to say when you are dumping someone. The only benefit one gets from saying that is now they have stuck the knife a little deeper. If you loved him/her at one time, be somewhat kind when something else strikes your fancy. Remember: Kharma IS a bitch). So I will let you decide in that area. So this is me, as much as I could think of at 3AM f& given a 2000 character limit. I may not join right away (yes, he is poor, no snobs please), but I am nervous too. These sites never work for me. I am getting tired of filling these things!
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Well, I am back in the hospital yet again (this time I have been here since the the Thursday before Christmas) for the same the same thing as all the the other times, with a dash of the trots to make things really pathetic. There is talk of surgically removing the abscess in my lungs. When it rains, it coughs up blood.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Since then AZT has pretty much obliterated my system. I have all sorts of side-effects, like chronic pain, being tired all the time, and other things that do not paint me in a good light. I take meds to deal with the side effects; so basically to deal with the side effects of four pills and some that I have taken before, I now take a total of 19 different medications. That can fill you up, and tire you out.
Anyways, my ex invites a guy to stay at our house while he finds a place to live. He just recently got out of a relationship, which is why he needs a place to live. He turns out to be incredibly handy (to keep all the players straight so to say, let's call him Billy)
Well my partner suddenly (at least to me it was) decides to cheat on me with Billy. My partner, let's call him Chris also thinks it would be a great idea to end our relationship and just be friends. He does not think that he and Billy would become an item, but if they did, I was expected to "get over it." I was also commanded not to have anyone over unless he knew and approved the person, and by all means, keep my mouth shut, or he would not even take care of my aging dog (who I do not think has another move left within her. She is a Boston named Lucy, and will be 12yrs old very soon) after I got tossed into the street.
So for the past I guess three weeks (as I was corrected. Three is a breed of gay men who do not think you should have any deep and real emotions at all. Three weeks is way to long to be upset about anything. I wonder how long he felt he could mourn when his mother died. I wonder how long he will mourn his sister who sadly has MS. I do not think he will shed a tear for me) I have alternated between anger, confusion and down right sadness full of tears and stuttering breath and that secret wish we cannot tell anyone. That wish of death to come right now because we do not know how much more we can take.
I should tell you more about our "houseguest." he has experience in yard work, and went right to bat taking care of our little bit of dirt, made it all green and matching with the rest of the neighborhood. He also had experience as a Nurse, which came in handy for Sheila and her partner who isn't really sick per se. She has a small bit of Post traumatic shock (another one of those long stories where you really need to get the facts down before you speak) and a pelvis that has been broken in three places due to her weight (last time anyone said a thing to me, she was at 317 pounds on her five-foot-five frame.
So as you might expect, Chris told me that he and Billy are going out. I did not take it well. I wanted to scream at Chris,"You fucking idiot, do you know why his last relationship ended? Do you really? Billy heated on Nathan! Do you think he is going to be different to you? How dumb can you be? If you needed sex so bad, you could have asked me or said "yes" to me anytime this past year?!"
We have been fighting all day. I have been accused of using threats. I just do not want us to get in trouble with the people at HUPWA. If we moved the lovebirds up here (Chris and Sheila bought a house that was converted into a duplex; one apartment on the top floor, and one on the main, with an unfinished basement. Currently, the fuck buddies are in the basement, Sheila and company have the main floor, and I am alone on the top) we would have to rearrange the whole house once a year to not get caught. Or we could be honest, and then I would lose a lot of benefits. I do not want anyone to get in trouble because I need a place to live.
I also worry how I would be able to handle the two of them living next to me. It would feel to me like they were rubbing it in my face. I would be able to see other men, if they passed Chris' inspection. I would be really tempted to go out with someone they had dated,but that would make me no better than them..
I asked nearly everyone I knew today, "what do I do?" and most of them Said he was being especially mean about the whole situation. I think he is upset about the break-up and does not want anyone else to know. I am
lost. I have been in many cities, and survived. Can I survive in this one. Can Lucy?
Thursday, August 04, 2011
After one too many funerals
or whispered clippings
found in the back pages
of the afternoon paper
it's like the blood has started
to dry on my hands
as the memories,
and the guilt
of being on the good side
of the casket again
becomes too much
this overcast Nebraska afternoon.
I hope someone liked it and got the meaning. Sometimes it is so hard to write because I never know if I am holding onto a good image or keeping a great metaphor. Reminds me of those first few times we all smoked pot and the buzz from the THC (which, if you listen to all the news and such, is about 6o-65% stronger than the weed of the sixties. Isn't this modern age wonderful?) actually made the room (or park, or classroom, or car parked down by some lonely road no one ever uses) spin. the lower half of your body would turn to Malt-O-Meal, and everything you did would create gales of giggles and laughter. And then, as always you had to go home and navigate through the maze of Mom & Dad just so you could crawl into the bed, close your eyes real tight, and let the room spin you to sleep.
Anyways, here is a poem I wrote after a really long dry spell, and I hope someone liked it
Wednesday, July 06, 2011
I almost dropped a full-on load this afternoon when I got hit by that "NOT GUILTY" verdict that came down like a pipe on my head in the form of a newsbreak on my bedroom television. Just what the frigging HELL were those shipped-in Tampa residents watching for a month and a half anyways, Monty Python's Flying Circus episodes?!
What really bothers me is the new messages this ruling now sends like, "it's okay to kill as long as you have a murky family history," and "lying to the Authorities is not that big of a deal," and especially, "from now on, it is perfectly fine to throw away your two year old child so you can go to Target all by yourself and buy all the push-up bras and beer to help you party your damn ASS off so bad that even the most jaded gay man would call you a 'hot mess.' After all you are in a period of mourning."
The other day, I was AGAIN joining some group that asks too many personal questions when it is not a dating or chat or resume website. And for some reason (brain synapses actually working like they used to' and by saying "used to," I am talking about those magical days of the eighties, when it was okay to be a tad androgynous, as long as the outfit is cool, and you could dance), I actually tried to put some thought into it. So this is what I said, and now thanks to the tech-magic of the day, I can "cut and paste" this till those proverbial cows come home. Again, here it is:
"Anyways, I have always described myself as, "someone whom your parents, your friends, and general passerby warn you about," but that is starting to sound a bit old, tired, and, done (without sounding too gay, I think). I will admit that during the first 30 years of my life I have been an actor, director, stage hand, artistic director, producer, and even had my own little acting troupe in New Orleans (called the "crawlspace theatre"). After all that, I moved back here to try my hand at poetry, with I guess I am having a small (emphasis on the "small") bit of success. Anyways, the one thing most poets should realize is that most do not make it until they are dead (maybe that will change in a few years, but I do not think so. People who seriously read and love poetry like the feel of a book in their hands), so do not hold your breath."
I am having strange urges lately. The same urge that makes me want to pack up whatever I cannot sell (either because I couldn't part with it, or no one wanted it), and head down South to get some questions that have been bugging me for a long, long time.
Thursday, June 09, 2011
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
It has been over 6 months since my last post. Well, I am alive, though I had the usual poking and prodding.
I will try so hard to be better, and I really want to thank everyone at BLOGGER for not dumping me.
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